Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself

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I think it's very interesting how we want kids to be assertive, but we don't teach them assertiveness skills with us. From Drama Free, I would love for people to have the takeaway of you are the person who can change your relationships. While this behavior might convince your coworker to finish the project on their own, you’d probably also make your coworker upset, especially if they found out you lied to them. If you’re ready to live in alignment and shift your relationship with self and others, Set Boundaries, Find Peaceis your next must read.

It’s important to create that sense of community in a society that tries to push everyone through the meat grinder of capitalism, but I can’t help but think we’d all have more time and energy to help each other if we didn’t have to waste away so much of that time and energy working and adulting in general. And while this book may even give some good advice to people like this, I cannot in good conscience recommend it because of the clearly individualistic and ignorant views the author so clearly holds and advocates for. What are some of the practical things that you think people should just like right away, start with when they're trying to draw boundaries with people in their lives or situations that are kind of difficult?In both business and boundary-setting contexts, repetition helps people internalize important information. Instead, try and pick a comfortable time and location, in which both of you have time to share your feelings and decompress afterward.

Shortform note: Tawwab offers recommendations for setting boundaries with loved ones and at work, but sometimes you may encounter someone who makes boundary-setting difficult outside of those contexts. For example, suppose you set a boundary with a close friend, stating clearly that you can’t lend them money anymore. I appreciate that the author covered the ways trauma and abuse impact our ability to set boundaries, but I felt like I needed a deeper dive and this book just offered an overview.

It repeatedly drills into your head that you are responsible for every aspect of your life if you only take action. By communicating this information early on, you give your family time and space to come to terms with things. They help the other person directly learn from their mistake, without you having to engage in punishment.